A few days ago, I lost a dear friend. A friend that I hadn’t seen for over a year (probably because he lived in Norway) but I still considered him to be a good friend of mine.
I spent a year living with this guy who was truly beautiful, inside and out, who had the heart of an angel.
The moment I found out the news, I just froze. I stopped right in my tracks and my mind went blank. Like everything had just paused, like the world had stopped mid-rotation and nothing else mattered anymore. He was on my mind.
Then, a gush of thoughts began running through my head. Why? How? What happened? I needed answers. But no-one knew them.
We were all completely left in the dark about what had happened, having to scramble around to try and contact someone closer to him that had more information.
But that information seemed to take a lifetime to reach us. Everyone was asking around to see if anyone had got the latest, to put our minds at rest, to at least get some sort of closure.
Thomas was a happy and cheery guy, always put other people first and tried his hardest to put a smile on your face.
That’s the word I’m searching for. He was completely selfless. He wasn’t one to gloat or want the attention on him. He was always interested in how I am, how my day went and my life.
He took his time on you, had the patience to sit and have a conversation about anything and everything. Even sitting in silence around him was a blessing. His presence just emanated love and happiness. There was never a dull moment when I was around Thomas. He would walk into a room with a huge grin on his face and I couldn’t help but smile and be cheerful, even if it was for a couple of seconds.
It’s now time to celebrate the life of one of the most wonderful human beings I’ve ever met. It’s time to remember the good times that we shared and support one another. It’s that time to think back on the moments we spent together and the ways in which he affected each and every person he touched throughout his lifetime.
He wouldn’t be wanting us to cry. He’d be wanting us to carry on with our lives, with our daily activities but keep that part of him always in our hearts.
The past few days have taught me to not take things for granted and appreciate everything whilst you can, you never know which day will be your last.
Life is too short: seize things whilst you can, say “I love you” to the people that deserve to hear it and live your life to the fullest.
Thomas, you will always be in my heart, constantly on my mind and never forgotten. Heaven has gained an angel.