Let’s be honest, we’ve all been there. We’ve all got to that point in our lives where we question everything. Where we question what we’re doing, where it’s all heading and just get stuck – completely forgetting our destination in life. It happens to the best of us.
But it’s okay! It’s alright because we all have it. I think it’s part of growing up, part of discovering where you’re destined to be and part of creating our own path towards the life you are supposed to live.
I am a firm believer of everything happens for a reason so all of the events that unfold throughout our lives are just carving the way for a better and brighter future: we are all allowed to be happy, and I believe that the universe wants that for us, we just have to be brave enough to reach out and take it.
Sometimes, all it takes is just a little glimpse of rock bottom to spur you to get back on your feet and face the world with two fingers up. That’s ok. It’s all ok, I assure you.
You know those times when people tell you to stop trying and you will never be disappointed? Well, that’s exactly that mantra that I’ve been living with at the moment and I honestly think I am a better person for doing so!
I am a firm believer in the proverb “Everything happens for a reason“, so learning to let go of the pressure and just get on with it has become something of the norm to me! I think by letting things go their own way is one of the most easy ways to live, letting nature take it’s course and leave life’s decisions down to fate.
Instagram is, arguably, the best social media outlet that we have in our lives and I’m sure most of us spend countless hours on the app. Whether it’s scrolling through endless blogger’s wardrobes, dreaming of perfect holidays or compiling a list of your top 10 favourite dogs, it undoubtedly eats away at the hours in our day.
I for one cannot get enough and I always find myself still scrolling at 1am wondering where on Earth the time went. So that’s why I’ve decided to bring you a list of my favourite accounts to follow, spread the love and encourage a conversation – because we all know that the latest Instagram update has taken a beating on our engagement.
So as some of you may have seen, if you follow me on any social media, I graduated on Monday with a Bachelors degree in Journalism. finally
After three years of blood, sweat and tears it has come to an end and I am still unsure of what to make of the whole situation. Going from study nights in the library, endless hours of group work and forcing every ounce of effort into my work to doing absolutely nothing is the most surreal feeling ever.
The other day, I had one of those “stop and think” moments when I was getting my hair cut.
I sat down, told the guy what I wanted and he set off, snipping and chopping away. Until he stopped and said:
“What do you wanna do after uni then?!”
And that was it. I mean, people have asked me that before and I’ve just kinda brushed it off because it wasn’t the right time to be thinking about it. In the past, I usually changed the subject, got on with things and said I’d think about that in the future. But that “future” is nearing and I have to face that question for myself. What do I want to do? And for once, I actually had no idea how to respond. I’ve done many spots of work experience and I could have easily just made something up, but I really had to think, search the depths of my brain for the perfect answer.
I replied, “I’m really not sure to be honest.” That was all I could say. It was the truth.
A puzzling look came upon his face, with which he said, “Really? No idea whatsoever?”
I was completely caught out, stuck on what to say and it suddenly became awkward. I know I’m only 21 (wow that’s the first time I’ve written that down, strange) but I thought that surely there is something in my head that knows. Surely there is some idea somewhere in my brain that knows exactly where I want to go. But I just couldn’t bring it to the surface and into words.
It wasn’t until I got home and looked back on the situation that I realised the sheer importance of that conversation. I think the main reason I don’t know is because I don’t want to know. The unknown element of the future is something that excites me more than anything. I’d much rather take the undiscovered path through life, taking every day as it comes and welcoming opportunities along the way than planning my every move.
I think the way life should be approached is with much enthusiasm and determination to succeed. If you don’t aim for the top, then you’re never going to be able to make it. Take every step with a pinch of salt and evaluate everything that you do. Critically reflect on the things that happen and build upon them, not everything has to be a negative. If you get knocked down, stand straight back up and think about why that happened and how to work around it.
This is exactly the thesis that I am adopting to my life and I hope many people feel the same. You may want to have an outline of the path you want to venture down in your life, but never be reluctant to go the opposite way at the crossroads, jump a few hurdles and go completely off-course. If life takes you that way then go with it. I heavily believe in fate and that everything happens for a reason, so if it happens then take it in your stride, embrace the change and love your life.
You only get one, so go out there and make it count.
A few days ago, I lost a dear friend. A friend that I hadn’t seen for over a year (probably because he lived in Norway) but I still considered him to be a good friend of mine.
I spent a year living with this guy who was truly beautiful, inside and out, who had the heart of an angel.
The moment I found out the news, I just froze. I stopped right in my tracks and my mind went blank. Like everything had just paused, like the world had stopped mid-rotation and nothing else mattered anymore. He was on my mind.
Then, a gush of thoughts began running through my head. Why? How? What happened? I needed answers. But no-one knew them.
We were all completely left in the dark about what had happened, having to scramble around to try and contact someone closer to him that had more information.
But that information seemed to take a lifetime to reach us. Everyone was asking around to see if anyone had got the latest, to put our minds at rest, to at least get some sort of closure.
Thomas was a happy and cheery guy, always put other people first and tried his hardest to put a smile on your face.
That’s the word I’m searching for. He was completely selfless. He wasn’t one to gloat or want the attention on him. He was always interested in how I am, how my day went and my life.
He took his time on you, had the patience to sit and have a conversation about anything and everything. Even sitting in silence around him was a blessing. His presence just emanated love and happiness. There was never a dull moment when I was around Thomas. He would walk into a room with a huge grin on his face and I couldn’t help but smile and be cheerful, even if it was for a couple of seconds.
It’s now time to celebrate the life of one of the most wonderful human beings I’ve ever met. It’s time to remember the good times that we shared and support one another. It’s that time to think back on the moments we spent together and the ways in which he affected each and every person he touched throughout his lifetime.
He wouldn’t be wanting us to cry. He’d be wanting us to carry on with our lives, with our daily activities but keep that part of him always in our hearts.
The past few days have taught me to not take things for granted and appreciate everything whilst you can, you never know which day will be your last.
Life is too short: seize things whilst you can, say “I love you” to the people that deserve to hear it and live your life to the fullest.
Thomas, you will always be in my heart, constantly on my mind and never forgotten. Heaven has gained an angel.
Hello everyone, wow it’s been so long since I last blogged – a month yesterday actually.
I’ve been super, super busy doing things. Like my internship. What internship you ask? This one right here.
It has been a crazy month and it has gone extremely fast, it only seems like yesterday I was mega excited to be starting and now I’m almost half way through.
A lot has happened in that month though. I have learnt a lot of valuable skills that have taught me a lot (and I mean a lot) about the fashion industry. People are either nice or horrible, there is no inbetween. Luckily, the majority of the people I have met have been the nicer ones.
I’ve learnt that, unlike The Devil Wears Prada, what you wear doesn’t matter. If you want to wear trackies to work, so be it. If you do, however, wear something nice, it will be noticed so that’s always something to determine you to dress the part. I got complimented on my shoes many times, thank you very much!
I’ve gained a few new contacts. Speaking to people is the best way of just getting yourself out there. People love confidence, especially future employers. And oh, the fashion industry needs confident people, trust me. If you’re shy and quiet, just leave now.
I’ve learnt quite a bit about myself and how I approach things. I like to be organised and do things to the best of my ability. I love to do things efficiently and work towards a goal, whether it’s reachable or not. I like being set high goals, it shows that people have trust in me and have faith that I am able to work towards them and hopefully achieve them.
I have also found out that I love fashion. I have been completely surrounded by clothing, shoes and accessories and I just love it. I love looking at it, talking about it and working with it.
It has definitely been an eye-opener to my future and my career prospects. It has told me that I should never be scared to do something, just go for it. The minute you begin to doubt the idea, is the moment that it all starts to crumble, your dreams become farfetched and the cracks begin to show. Would you rather regret something you didn’t do and never knew what would have happened or something that you did do and failed?
Failing is a chance to learn and grow. Failure is normal. Everyone has to fail to realise what is really needed to succeed.
Ok, I’ve jumped in way too deep. Back to reality.
What else has happened? I have gained some fantastic friends – Katie & Samantha (better known as Scarphelia and Nashbag.)
I have grown a lot as a person in the past month and I have really seen a lot of the world (well, London!) to show me that things are reachable, dreams are possible and to never look back. The past is done, gone and forgotten. Look the the future, aim for success and reach for the stars.
Imagine you met your future self (pretty far-fetched I know, but bear with me) and got the chance to ask them 3 questions, what would they be?
Would you ask how things happened for you?
Would you want to know what happened to something specific?
Would you ask for their advice on what to do? How to go through life? Who to meet, who to say hi to, who to avoid? What places to visit and when? What jobs to apply for?
Would you ask who you married/spend your life with? Or avoid this question to leave it open for your adventure? Would you ask about your family/friends?
Would you ask them what happens tomorrow, next week/year or, again, not?
Maybe you’d ask who’s president/prime minister? Who’s running the country?
Maybe you’d ask what’s the latest craze/fashion trend to “invent” it yourself, and get one step ahead of others.
There’s so many possible things that you’d want to know from them, choosing 3 seems the hardest choice in the world. They would have lived their life their (your) way and the way they (you) wanted to. It seems crazy to think that you could follow exactly in their footsteps if you wanted to, just by asking 3 distinct questions that could decipher it all and bring the future into your own hands. You could play the game of life, looking for the next move to coincide with what your future self told you. Searching for that one person they said they married, looking for that specific job they worked in, unearthing the truth about the society that they lived in and so much more.
Just 3 questions that could open a world of possibilities for you and, yet, still constrain you to living a planned out life. Just 3 questions between you and your future.